let me attempt , a dream can be called a movie running in our mind during certain stages during our sleep ,a combination of sound and visual, and sometimes some inexplicable distortions of sound and visual. A dream can very lucid just like 1080p high definition and u will feel like you are in your real life or on the contrary it might be completely nonsensical. The extent of distortion of sound and visuals in a dream depends upon various factors some of which are tractable like stress levels ,what u thought about last before hitting the pillow, etc and also factors which are way beyond human control. Those factors are supposed to be mystifying interplay of psychology ,biology and what not .well I might set you thinking why I am taking pains to describe something as commonplace as a “Dream”. That is because what I am about to deliberate requires you to be at ease with a dream actually means and what it really affects it .
Does the term “TEENAGE DREAMS “ rings any familiar bells for all of you ? It is not just about silly stupid teenager dreams .what I mean by “Teenage Dreams” encompasses a whole set of emotions, aspirations and fears that every single teenager lives with.
It could be fear of not being able to measure up to his peers, it could be his emotional needs of love , care and nurture , it also could be his hormonal surges .It could be his endeavor for a better life ahead or maybe his chagrin over his thwarted efforts to win his “girl”. His fretting over a failed “well hatched “ plans or maybe his favorite cricketer hit another duck .you just name a thing and you can find a lot of teenagers fretting over it .I guess people are right when they say teenage is the most problematic part of growing up .
teenage can be defined roughly as age between 13 to 19, which begins with onset of various physical and psychological changes .teenage is touted to be passing phase,
the metamorphosis of a child into an adult through a set of experiences which are unnerving as well as life changing at the same time .well I don’t intend to beat around about what teenage is all about . I am just here to share what it meant for me to grow through those years
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As I was growing up I faced a host of issues .one of the very first problems I faced was the identity issue . you always wanted to be identified ,associated with ,spotted ,distinguished or tagged ,whatever way you put it. No matter what the subject was you always wanted to be distinguished from crowd rather than being a part of it .
Also this identity crisis becomes acute when you go to a new school or college .Then there is your adrenaline rush as you enter the threshold of puberty .you tend to indulge in delinquent activities just for the fun of it. It sometimes has very serious repercussions amounting to substance abuse, outbursts of violence and even criminal offence .
Also I observed a lot of my friends did a lot of things they never ever wanted to , just to ”remain in the league” or to be cool. A teen has this cancerous tendency to measure himself against his peers which eats him slowly .I have seen friends succumb to a lot of vices, be it alcohol , maurijiana and various other addictions . I will bet my money on the fact that “An engineering college hostel is the best workshop to learn how a teenager caves in to such tendencies .”
Another curious thing which I experienced was , whenever I screwed up something I always felt like I was in the “public eye” and my screwing up has somehow halted the infinite rhythm of universe .Psychologists call this “Spotlight Effect”. you feel like you are in limelight and everyone is watching you screw up .This leads to diminishing confidence and further faltering . When the fact is nobody bothers whether you screw up or not .
As soon as you enter college you start to become conscious of enormous changes you are undergoing both psychologically and physically . This is the time when opposite sex captivates you . This is also the time you become conscious of terms like ego , self esteem ,career , success ,future each of them a double edged sword . I ,sometimes wish I never came across such terms and then ahh .. I also wish I never grew up .
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to be continued has become a curiosity
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